Pay close attention to those not clapping

'Pay close attention to those not' clapping 

Kings & Queens today is another life lesson/ words of wisdom post mixed in with some fashion details of a shoot I did awhile ago. My friend Micah (Her Blog) and I were talking about the ‘friends’ we have that don’t seem to show any form interest or proudness in certain things we do such as blogging or Youtube. The point we kept coming back to is that we have all these close ‘friends’ but ‘why did they not show any interest when we started our blog’, ‘Why do no they not show that they are proud of us’, ‘Have they even taken the time to read a blog post or watch one of our videos’ etc. If these people are such close friends of ours where is the support, the encouragement or just a simple text to acknowledge what we are doing. I mean we are friends and I want good things for you as much as I want for myself because nothing is better than women encouraging and praising each other for their work.

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Its amazing how it is only now that we are starting to realise these things. I have people that I know but we are not particularly close and we don’t speak but somehow they seem to support me more. People from secondary school or sixth form that I barely spoke to are incredibly supportive and encourage whilst ‘friends’ that I’ve known for years don’t even bother. This is not to say I expect my ‘friends’ to read every single post, share on Facebook, twitter & Instagram or even watch every YouTube video. The key word is ‘SUPPORT’. You don’t need to understand what I am doing to show support. The point is that we all have these ‘friends’, ‘best friends’ but what we should all ask ourselves is are they genuinely happy for you, do they want you to succeed, are they a source of encouragement, are they your cheerleader?

(The black blazer is from H&M and I'm pretty sure you can purchase something similar from any other high street store. I love wearing Nike or adidas tops simply because they are great quality as I often have a hard time with white tops fading or changing colour in the wash. I purchased the Nike high low top from urban outfitters but you can find something similar from JD sports, Nike.com and ASOS) 

(Ripped Jeans are so on trend and some people love them so people hate them. I clearly love them because they give an edgy touch to the outfit. I purchased these from ASOS and rolled up the bottoms because I personally feel they look better. I have to mention the amazing quality of these which is not the case for all the ASOS jeans I own. I sometimes have an issue ASOS brand jeans tearing in the groin area but these wash really well and so far no tearing has occurred so these are a thumbs up from me)

The title is ‘pay close attention to those not clapping’ because there are people out there waiting for your downfall. Calling someone a friend is just a label but look at there actions and the way in which they support you. Watch out for the people who lurk and stalk your social media but show little encouragement or support when they see you doing amazing things and moving up in your career. I could be wrong when saying this and you can disagree with me but in my personal opinion a lot of us women fail to support each other. Even giving a compliment is difficult for some. What is wrong with telling other women they are beautiful or you like their outfit for example. It does not make you weak but rather stronger because you are instilling confidence in another woman which in turn will encourage them to possibly give a compliment to another woman because they know the power of words. I slowly digress LOL. The point I am trying to make is if you see another woman doing good, tell her! Let her know that you see her hard work. Appreciate her hard and success AND if your own ‘friends’ show little support for your success be cautious. I just want to make it clear that these ‘friends’ are not necessarily bad people and often times they are kind, caring and hardworking themselves. However, in the mist of those cheering and clapping for you, there are many conspicuously silent. Not everyone means well!

Last but not least are these bomb boots from vagabond. These boots are my absolute fave although my feet were absolutely dead after wearing them all day. I don't have much to say about them other than they are perfect but a little uncomfortable if worn for an extended period of time. I purchased them from Urban outfitters but they can also be purchased directly from the vagabond website.

Do you have any ‘friends’ that are not clapping when you win? I would love to know your thoughts! Do you agree or disagree? Let’s have a discussion. Comment Below!

Stay Blessed, Be Blessed

Lizzie x